Ox Weds Donkey! - Do Not Be Unequally Yoked Together With Unbelievers
Brother R. Stanley, an Indian post-graduate in Soil Mechanics and
Foundation Engineering, born in 1947 and born again in 1962 is in fulltime Christian service since 1975. He has been honoured with a Doctorate in Divinity by the Hindustan Bible Institute, Chennai in 2000. Notes, outlines and sermons born out of the personal Bible meditations of R. Stanley can be read at http://www.StanleyOnBible.com Materials from this website, launched on 31 August 2002, can be copied for private circulation, but not for publication.The books authored by Brother Stanley in English and translated to a number of Indian languages, and tapes, are available from the Blessing Youth Mission (BYM), http://www.BlessingYouthMission.org an inter-Church revival and missionary-evangelistic organisation in India.
Both the Old and the New Testaments strongly condemn intermarriage with unbelievers. Intermingling the "holy seed" with the unconverted is called as "trespass, transgression, iniquity and guilt" (Ezra 9:1-6). Even a widow who is a believer is not permitted to marry an unbeliever. "She is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord" (1 Cor 7:39).
Even if your parents press you to marry an unbeliever, for whatever reason, you can firmly refuse. Obedience to parents also must be "in the Lord" (Eph 6:1). If you have fallen in love with an unbeliever, break the affair unless your fiance or fiancee gets genuinely converted. Beware of baptisms just for the sake of marriage!
True in some cases the unbelieving spouse gets converted after marriage. But no truth can be established from this. The Bible challenges, "How do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Cor 7:16). Marriage is too serious a matter to take risk. If you have already made the mistake of marrying an unbeliever, you can now do nothing but pray and believe God for his or her salvation.
When young people from non-Christian background embrace the Gospel, they find it extremely difficult to find suitable believing partners. Casteism is prevalent even among Christians in India. Christian leaders and pastors must voluntarily take sincere efforts to settle marriages for the non-Christian converts. Believing young people from Christian families should come forward to marry non-Christian converts. Why not? Sometimes the families of these converts may throw them out of their community. The Church should support such with all sensitivity.
Thy way, not mine, O Lord, however dark it be;
Lead me by Thine own hand, choose Thou the path for me.
I dare not choose my lot; I would not if might;
Choose Thou for me, my God, so shall I walk aright!
Stanley On Bible