Rev. Dr. J.N. Manokaran is a civil engineer by profession. God has called Rev. Dr. J.N. Manokaran to be a missional leader serving with his family in Haryana as cross cultural missionaries for eleven years. Since 1997 they have returned to Tamil Nadu to help missionaries and pastors to build their capacities by teaching, training and writing. He has authored these books: “Christ and Cities” and “Christ and Missional Leaders”. He has completed his B.D. from Immanuel Theological Seminary, Georgia as an external student, did his M.Th. at Hindustan Bible Institute, Chennai and earned his Ph.D. from International Institute of Church Management. Rev. Dr. J.N. Manokaran's wife Rosy is a constant encourager in the ministry and counsels many people. His daughter Hosanna is a student missionary in Belarus pursuing her Medical studies to become a missionary doctor and son Thambos is in high school. Presently, Rev. Dr. J.N. Manokaran serves as the Managing Director of Trainers of Pastors International Coalition (TOPIC) – India and provides consultancy services to several organizations, mentor several leaders and contributes to several magazines and journals.
Mark Zuckerberg is the founder and CEO of Facebook. “Facebook has two
‘newsfeeds,’ a personal one unique to your Facebook home page, and a
corporate one, available for reviewing by all of your ‘friends’. The
combination of these two feeds is what Facebook calls ‘the stream’”
(p.68) “Facebook was, in many ways, simply the next generation of
software that could ‘learn’ your personal preferences and customize
advertisements just for you.” (P.69) . . . . Facebook has universal appeal to people of every age. Facebook
is becoming multimedia platform with 850 million photos uploaded to
Facebook every month and 7 million videos in 2009.
Name of the Book: The Church Of Facebook: How the Hyperconnected Are Redefining Community
Researchers have found connection as key to happiness. Harry Harlow a scientist did research with new born monkeys. In his research he was able to find that comforting connection is more needed than food. The monkey needed psychological resource or emotional attachment. Human need for connection is well realized when there is a disconnection. Dropped cell phone calls or the loss of a job – ‘each kind of disconnection alerts us to the fact that we were meant to connect.’ 
Mark Zuckerberg is the founder and CEO of Facebook. “Facebook has two ‘newsfeeds,’ a personal one unique to your Facebook home page, and a corporate one, available for reviewing by all of your ‘friends’. The combination of these two feeds is what Facebook calls ‘the stream’” (p.68) “Facebook wa, in many ways, simply the next generation of software that could ‘learn’ your personal preferences and customize advertisements just for you.” (P.69) “An entire entrepreneurial culture has sprung up around the application development on Facebook, with more than 700 000 developers generating 140 new applications every day.” (p.71). 70 percent of Facebook members were from outside U.S. in 2009. Facebook has universal appeal to people of every age. Facebook is becoming multimedia platform with 850 million photos uploaded to Facebook every month and 7 million videos in 2009. 
Relationships require time. But in Facebook people have just enough time for a quick wall posting, a shared video link or a one sentence status update. The communication in Facebook if often one way. People end up communicating in order to get a reaction. “As we develop through adolescence, living for what psychologists call an ‘imaginary audience’ is part of how we organize our inner worlds.” (p.111). “In effect the hyperconnection of Facebook changes the nature of our relationships by turning our friends into audience and us into performers.” (p.112) Facebook is mostly a ‘culture of status’. Self-revelations are largely to gain more of that status. “The problem with this, of course, is that relationships rooted in status-seeking and public showcasing are composed of entirely different DNA than those rooted in qualities like emotional maturity and respectful boundaries.” (p.113). 
The status updates in Facebook are like personal headlines. Everyone in the Facebook is being watched, so people are more likely to change behaviour. The capacity to be alone, reflect is being lost. The cultivation of healthy self-concept is missing because of being always-on. Personal polling in the Facebook helps a person to make decisions. Voices that say what to do is increasing and are getting louder. So self-confidence for taking decision is lacking. In many ways Facebook members are everconnected to anywhere except here and now. “There can be no clarity of direction, without clarity of self.” (p. 148) “Our lives unfold moment by moment, and the only way we can truly experience them is in the moment. Being always-on can thwart awareness of the present moment.” (p. 149)
What happens online is connection and not community. Virtual community is like playing guitar with one string. Younger generation understands community as combination of online and real community. Adaptation is required in the changing environment. In marriage one offers security, intimacy and freedom which is reciprocated by other. That means accepting responsibility and also submit to one another.
Humility is always transformative. “Humility does not mean we constantly turn a deaf ear to our wants and needs in service of others. True humility always honors both ourselves and others, at the same time.” (p.196). “Facebook, and the Internet in general, rewards those who are most clever, not those with the most character. Unfortunately cleverness has the lifespan of a sickly gnat. Clever ideas, trends, and people pop up then fade away just as quickly. Cleverness has no staying power.” (p.197) Life alienating communications happen due to moralistic judgements, making comparisons and by denial of responsibility. 
