Outlasting Marital Unhappiness
- By Dr. Ramesh Richard
- Published 02/20/2009
Dr. Ramesh Richard
A spiritual philosopher, Dr. Ramesh Richard speaks on the ultimate issues of life to tens of thousands of people around the globe each year. He clarifies the message of God and the meaning of the Bible to wide-ranging audiences-from Harvard to Haiti, from Prime Ministers of nations to the masses in them, from gatherings of a few to a hundred thousand. He has been given the opportunity of speaking good news and providing personal hope for people in over 70 countries. An inspirational speaker and graduate school professor, Dr. Richard has earned two doctoral degrees-a Th.D. (in systematic theology) from Dallas Theological Seminary and a Ph.D. (in philosophy) from the University of Delhi. He has also authored several books including "Soul Passion", "Soul Mission" and "Soul Vision".
I was thinking…
A journalist who has written a series of books on family and marriage is suggesting that the longer a marriage lasts the more adjusted a couple is to each other. In spite of a diminishing libido, “Older couples, compared to middle-aged couples, expressed lower levels of anger, disgust, belligerence and whining and higher levels of one important emotion, namely affection….emotional stability steadily improves.”
Then the author considered if unhappily married people should split up. Does divorce make people happy? Her “short answer seems to be rarely…unhappily married adults who divorced or separated were no happier, on average, than unhappily married adults who stayed married to the same partner. Only one in five of them was happily remarried. More surprisingly, a majority of those who remained married pronounced themselves happy at the end of the five-year period.”
Every marriage goes through difficult times, rough patches, and strained periods. If you want to leave because you are unhappy, studies and reports show that you ought to hang on, in the middle of your unhappiness. At the very worst, a known unhappiness (unless your life is being physically threatened) is better than an unknown unhappiness. And if the potential for known unhappiness to turn into known and unknown happiness is likely as you get older, hold on. You can outlast your unhappy marriage season to a better adjusted relationship of affection. I know!
However, you need spiritual, supernatural, salvation to facilitate your move to maturity. Ask me how.
Dr. Ramesh Richard