please read 1st Corinthians chapter 7 and chapter 8 it will help to understand both ways. To accept to be together and also to chose not to be together.

I read your Letter and the response
Let me ask you one question
Dose she loves you or it is just a one side
If she loves and wants to get married to you, then religion should not be a issue
I am not a fanatic but why do Hindus alone think of accepting another god and why not others
If you feel she is worth giving up your religion then go ahead, let me just remind you that she does not think your are worth changing the religion
so why this sacrifice
I don’t see any point
If god is so important to girl who has take up for the past 3 years then it should be more to you ‘cause your born into a greatest religion on the face of earth and will ever be

Hi, few suggestions before you make your decision. Think on your own
a) how do you want to bring up your child 1. Hindu 2. Christian 3. does not matter
b) if you buy a new car or build a new house, do you want to offer a prayer at a) temple b) church c) does not matter
c) if you are in deep troubleyou want to hear consoling words and songs from a) hindu base b) christian base c) does not matter

d) If your wife says I can not participate in any of your family funerals and I can not deliver any of my duties as part of your family due to my faith then it is a) Not ok b) ok

if your answer is b or c please proceed with your christian girl. Good Luck.

Abishek



For all the questions if your answer is b or c then proceed to the next:

Don't participate in her activited if she doesn't participate in yours.

Trust me, she might end up pushing you over. And you might not be able to be hindu or anything

You can still marry her I think. But if she isn't willing to comprimise to come to your religous activites you don't have to go to church with her

Plus if she's that religous. Then the people in her church will probably be too. and you might be harassed.

Hi Friend,
We r in the same page. But in my case, She is kerala Christian. I am not believe/depend on the religions. So anyone can please tell me how to do the register marriage? And immediate steps that i have to do.
Regards,
Vino

As a woman raised christian and married to a Hindu man, the challenges go beyond choice of faith and extend into culture, and pre-conceived expectations about marriage in general. Communication is key! There are several issues that need to be discussed before you enter into this life commitment. If your love is strong and you are not afraid of the non-traditional, I wish you luck.

The unfortunate thing in this situation is that the "Christian girl", who seems some what loyal to her faith, is actually not pursuing the creator in which she claims to believe in at all. "Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church" Eph. 5:25. For me Christ continues to passionatley pursue me, and continues to. So how could I ever conceive of loving a wife the correct way unless I understood Christs love? The Hindu guy can't ever love the wife the way that Christ intends him to, nor can the wife have any impact on His kingdom, if her/his own house is divided? It would be the extreme exception to the rule if this marriage could ever be accepted. However, I can promise our Hindu question guy, if you examine the history of the bible and love your future spouse enough to do so, you will see not only the historical authenticity of the bible, but God will continue to show you truth through His word, which will ultimately bring you the peace that it seems like you are looking for.

My dear Hindu sister,
Y its impossible to meddle spiritiual matters and get complicated unless u have to understand what Hinduism teaches and that of Christianity.
1. Remember no religion can save a person including Christianity. Jesus never founded any religion but He told his followers that He is the way to God, not by our actions.
He taught us to look God in God's way not in our ways.
His ways are higher than us and His thoughts are not our thoughts.
He has got plans, purpose and reason for us to live on this planet earth.
We cannot win God's favour by our actions, givings and so forth.
Jesus said, know the truth and the TRUTH will set us free.
That's the reason: anybody, anywhere, any time,any person of any religion can call upon his name, and can seek his help. He told all who believe him to his disciples, not to be only believers.
If any mess in this world, we can't blame HIM becos, we are the managers of the world. He loves us that much that He allowed to be mercilessly tortured and killed. (watch: Passion Of Christ).
According to Prophecies in the scriptures(true prophets must prophecy the truth)all these must be fulfilled.
He was to become born as a man (Christmas), die (Easter) to be our atonement.
In the World v have standards and the man made standards we have to comply).
For our every genuine actions, our standards are match-less to his standards. We cannot measure our goodness in His standards. Take any persons ever lived, they had their limits and equally like any ordinary human beings. Take it in: marriage, anger, food, riches... there were limited.It makes no differences to any of us in this world.

For e.g. take a sage or holy person, ask him a repeated question for a certain number of times, finally he may show his temper! Take a modern day Bagawan, call him in a cell phone, the first thing he will ask who is on the line? Y didnt he call by your name b4,But he instead asking your name and details.
But the differebce between Christ and any human beings is: He is God, He is Omnipotent, Omnipresence,Omniscience,etc etc.
He had to die because not that he cannot defend himself, but because he loves you and me. Remember how horrible we are? We even cant control our evil mind, temper, jealousy, wickedness,lust for wealth,beauty,fame, etc etc... Yet he kept quiet till he was crufied, Y his love 4 us is so great!!
If opportunity exists, read Mr.Rabrinnath's. The death of a Guru( former hindu guru from Carribean Islands. Sadhu Sunder Singh's (a Punjabi Hindu)story.
Hear Sadhu Chellapa's Convertion Testimoney and his research papers/talks on Hindu vedas,Sastrams,Karmas

Prof. Dr. Deivanayagam' The Gold Medalist & Dr DeivaKala Deivanayagam's Hinduism /Vedas/ThiruKoral in the Bible, Ganesha Bramar story,
Vethanayaga Sasthiriar's Thanjavoors royal court Royal singers Testimonies.

Jesus Calls ministry Mr. Dhinakaran, Mohan C lazarus (former Thinavelli Hindu)ministries,
All these people were very staunch Hindus and following Hindu Tharmas. What and why are they Christians today?
For your information, Christians brought so much developments to humanity, and most wealthy developed people are the Christians and still give needy helping hands in any case of any emergencies in any part of the world.The Tsunami, earth Quake in AP,Gujarat. Why? not for karma, but for the love Jesus have given in our hearts.Not to convert anyone by this actions.
Compare what amount of hatred the RSS do? killing of the Australian man & son serving in the Leporosium.How can his wife can forgive the murderers? No Vengence. Y?
If you believe in Jesus, holistically, wholistically you will be a changed/transformed person not living for yourself.
Please dont mistake the Roman Catholics as Christians, they are Catholics and answerable to the Vatican Pope.
Buy a Bible and read for yourself and you find how Jesus was such a wonderful person was and His grave in palestine is still empty. He was dead, buried, arosed from dead and now forever alive. He has gone to heaven and He is coming again to take us all who believes Him.
That's the good news.
Thats the reason that converted girl hestitates to return back.
The beautiful Gospel:
Amazing Grace, how sweet his sound, that saved a wretch like me, was blind, now I see.
How can a former blind person, healed now sees perfectly, asking him to be blind again!
How can i betray a man(Jesus) who made my life wonderful from a horrible mess life?
Thanks. Love from a wonderful brother in Christ. Jesus Loves you very much. If you are in a mess, pl call him now!!!

Having stumbled upon this site while googling, I'll leave my 2 paise worth of thoughts.

In India, I have seen quite a few mixed marriages especially those contacted in cities succeed. But the partners don't seem to be able to graduate to a greater closeness, than if the partners were to come from the same community.
The stand that one of the partners is not being accommodating, I think comes basically from the Roman Catholic Church concept that the main purpose of marriage is children - future citizens of the Kingdom of Heaven. If these marriages were to succeed one of the partners has to give up their insistence on their faith and values and try and accept their partners'. I guess if each of the partners understands the reason for the others stand, there is a good chance that the marriage will succeed.

There is a fundamental difference between the Eastern (Buddhism, Hinduism, Jainism, Confuciusism) and Western (Christianity, Islam) philosophies. In the East it is generally accepted that there is no absolute right and wrong, both being a manifestation of the Absolute, thus results in things are left to take their own course. This makes it easier for the Hindu to adjust to the Christain or Muslim rather than vice-versa. But on the other hand one becomes fatalistic. If a person is poor, or sick, it is not taken to be nessasirily bad, to be avoided. The West believes that there is a personal God. This results in a clear right and wrong which results in a certain direction, a movement.

Though, both the West and East say that man in his present state suffers, but in the West, since there is an absolute right and wrong, Man is supposed to have a clear free will that he is supposed to exercise in order to be "saved" from his predicament. This is done by repenting (giving up pride) and having Faith in the Holy Spirit. Here there is too much emphasis on working out one's salvation and a lot of effort is spent in that direction.
In the East the free will concept is a bit watered down. Here too man can be saved by attaining enlightenment, by meditating (giving up the ego and so be free), but since the East accepts that there is no absolute wrong and right, but since most people not understanding what enlightenment or salvation is all about - they end up by only 'reacting' and not acting.
The Truth, I guess lies in-between.

Dear Friend,
I am in your same predicament, but backwards: I am the Christian girlfriend from the USA, and my boyfriend is Hindu from India. We are thinking of getting married, but are coming across the same obstacles you are facing. It is true that the Bible says that we as Christians are only allowed to worship one God. Hence, the dilemma: if you try to force your girlfriend to participate in Hindu events, she will feel as though she is betraying God. If she does not participate in your religious events, she will feel as though she is betraying you. Believe me, being in our position is just as difficult as being in yours! I googled this topic tonight because my boyfriend just told me that he assumed I would convert to Hinduism as soon as we were married, even though we had never discussed this before. It was quite a shock as I had never expected him to give up his religion for me, and has expected that we would simply respect each other's religious choices. In my opinion faith is very personal. It is also extremely important to me. I pray to God for help and guidance in all things, including my prayers for my boyfriend's success and happiness. To turn my back on the God who has shown me so much love is not something I could live with, and I believe the same holds true for your Christian girlfriend. That said, I believe that if you two truly love each other, that is a wonderful thing, and you could try to work things out through communication and respect. If you do go ahead with the marriage, it would be best for you both to respect the other's faith and rules of that faith. I have talked to a Hindu friend who is dating a Christian man (opposite situation from me), and they are open to teaching their children about both faiths (the Christian father teaching his faith and the Hindu mother teaching hers) and letting the children decide which to continue when they become adults, something that I think I would consider as well. I also do not see harm in simply learning about another faith, without actually being an active participant. I do think that learning about your wife's faith would help you understand her more, and that she should respect your devotion to Hinduism, even if she does not participate in your religious events. Also, please understand her position: it is not that she does not love you, but simply that Christians love God above all else, even themselves, and we are taught that love of God is the way to the greatest happiness for ourselves AND our spouses through the blessing of our marriages. It is sad that religion, which brings us such joy and peace, can at times lead to division among friends, nations, even husband and wife. I do hope that you are able to work things out where both of you are happy, faithful, and at peace. If you truly love each other, I do believe you can overcome this challenge if you respect each other, have faith in God, and pray for His guidance. Best of luck!! My prayers are with you and your girlfriend.

Dear Friend,

You should decide before marriage. Two faiths won't live together. Hinduism preaches tolerance. That is why your priest is asking you to follow your girlfriend's activities.But, this tolerance is never respected. This would be taken as weakness, you would be brainwashed to convert. You would lose your ideologies. You would lose your originality. You may notice some of the responses here asking you read bible and visit christian gospel websites. see it has already started... Don't succumb to this pressure. Be a proud Hindu..Be yourself.

I think of all the advice given here, Elizabeth's is the only one I agree with. I am Hindu female and yes, Hindus are brought up with tolerance and Christians are not. In order for it to work, there has to be a compromise, and it is best to discuss before taking that next step. Not just between you two but also between parents. You need to write a list of expectations from one another and discuss it. How willing are both of you to compromise. Not just you - BOTH of you. One of Christianity's goals is to save the human soul and make them convert; Hinduism's is to tolerate while believing your own beliefs. There is a major conflict of interest here. Be careful, be proud of your identity and be realistic.

Dude, after reading all the comments I am pretty much sure that it is not religion but mere fanaticism. Better be a hindu so that you can love god better. Also you can be a true human being. Truth is greater than god. Only hindu veda declare "From un-truth lead me to truth, from darkness led me to light, from death lead me to immortality". Believe me Christ lives in every heart of hindu. Only blind cannot see it and call it devil. Be a hindu and be free

agreede

I am so happy for you, just follow your heart

finally a feeling and thinking person!

I do not blame her at all. There is only one way to be saved, and That is through Yeshua. It is not through some other god or some pagan religion.

If Jesus is the path to God and God create us then why humans in this world are created in a various religion and beliefs.Does't God should just create everyone to be born in one belief that believe in Jesus only.Why does God creating people in various beliefs and expecting them that they will understand Jesus and convert or else they will not go to heaven.It's not the every human beings choice to be born in a family with different belief and if they do every parents are doing their best to bring the child up with humanity.It's unfair for God to create as a non beleiver and they goes to hell or into darkness if they don't believe in Christ.Then God should not create any one as a non believer at all.Human beings should live a simple life and happy life with humanity than living a complicated life.By the way,calling that marrying a non believer is a sin is something insulting to a human being who is just trying to live their life like any other human beings in this world especially misusing Christ's name in this.I bet Christ did not sacrifice himself to see his believer to insult another human being like this.Why make life so complicating when you can live this one and only beautiful life with joy and give all the love to anyone who needs it.I only wish for one now.People are misinterpreting and misinterpreted bible and what Christ was trying to say at that time when there wasn't any proper civilisations with the era now.God has to do something about this or else there will be more hatred day by day among the humans that was created than love!

I am happily married to my christian wife as in hindhu's way with one baby boy. As our relationship start from friendship, i already told her as she interested at me, that i cant convert to christian, but i can practise it. And she need to follow hindhus if she want get marry to me, its was difficult for her to decide, she prayed hardly to jesus, then she decided to converted to hindhu. After we marry, we dont have child yet, many ppl start critized because of converting from christians,thts why my wife not getting pregnant and so on. But we see the god ONLY ONE! We go churches,temples. We prayed to Jesus, St. Anthony, Lord Murugan, Lord Vishnu. St.Anthony & Jesus came in our dreams, almost same dream in one single night..... its real miracle to be happen after we prayed to them, at same time, after we prayed at temple, we gone to pharmist to check, its shown positive. U see here, whats makes difference? Only humans are telling U cant do that and this all... but we just have believe in the god. So for your case, just accept the faith. Either u converted, or she converted, dont forget where u come from...always appreciate your former religious. Try to practise both. God will understand U. We are here to LIVE with the bless from GOD, not to DIE, SUFFER of the religions...... I appreciate my wife decisions, therefore, im following her to church just for christmas and st anthony feast. This is to appreciate her former religions, my faith, respect to jesus and christianality. As in bible, if u r christian, u cant practice or pray other god, bcoz ONLY JESUS the way to GOD. Your GF, should understood that where she is from, Born as what, Being hindhu, we are allowed u to practise any religions and pray to any gods... There is no retriction, i dont think so u can do it while christian. Try to make her understand, she should matured on this.... If she cant, dont abuse the religions.. respect both religions and GIVE up the love...There is nothing great than GOD. Just accept this is FAITH to be. Respect the PPL got trusted in their own religious.

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Hi friend...i'm a kerala christian girl and my husband is a kerala hindu. i go to church every sunday he's ok with that no relagion between us..but he knows i love my jesus.

I am a christian girl engaged to a hindu guy. We ahve been together for 8 years and now marraige has come up. we agreed that niether of us will convert, but problems are constantly arising, such as..whenwe get married i have to live with his family. and he when we have children, he wants them to be hindu and they can "learn"about Christianity. We always agreed that they can be both religions and when they are of an age, they can decide for themselves, but now that his parents are involved, he changed his mind. and he wants me to partake in all their prayers. Im so confused. Will i be forsaking Jesus if i just do it to make them happy? Although i will never convert? I keep praying and fasting, my heart is in such Turmoil.

I m a hindu boy n my gf is christian, She is undrstand'g girl We dont have any pro'm 2 follow booth reli'n. Bt big probl'm is that us parants wont except us if will get mared. N we dont want 2 leav us parants. So my frinds plz suges me how we can convince us parants 4 this new relation'p. Otherwise we have 2 leav eachother 4ever. Plz help me.

I understand your frustration. I have felt the same way. I'm a white (penecostal) Christian girl and am seeing a Sikh Indian guy whom I love dearly. He is very genuine and kind and comes from a good family, and the like. The only difference is our culture and our faith. It has been the only hinderance to us getting more serious because we are unsure of how our families will accept us being together. Christianity teaches to love people as Christ loves people, but the Bible also commands Christians to only be "yoked" (married, attached, together), with other believers. I would say pray first. If you haven't told your parents about your girlfriend and you love her--you should do so. Remember Hinduism and Christianity are very different so if you agree to learn and accept her faith; and she learns to accept and learn your faith--it might be easier. Good luck to you.

Arivu,

you have really spoken my heart out. you now after my experience with my christian , i m afraid now wat to do >? He is nt engaged but i m heartbroken .. wat to do ..shud i worrship Jesus coz i was ready to accept his faith coz i loved him or shud i b wat i used to be .. ibelived god is god .. u can call him by any name...i m fearful that anymore bad may nt happen to me :( i dont knw..i just wish god hears my heart and brings peace to me

This is an awesome comment. Exactly the thoughts going on in my mind. I have one question in my mind: did the priest at the church agree to performing the marriage without both of you being Christians?

hmmmmm.... it's quite a diemma. I am a Christian girl dating a Hindu man, and love him dearly. However, I love Christ above all... and the bible states clearly 1. To have (or worship) no other gods except the Lord, and 2. Not to make, or worship, any idols or images of anything in all creation. We were discussing him having symbols of his gods in our future home, and how I believe that God will not reside in that home as He is a jealous God. I dont want to deprive him of his religion, yet I also cannot live in a home where there are symbols of other gods. I am not catholic, so do not worship statues in church or the cross. I simply believe in a relationship with Jesus as the pathway to salvation. I see no solution, and this tears me apart.