My Christian Girlfriend Doesn't Want to Follow My Hindu Faith
- By Pritam Singh Sandhu
- Published 03/10/2006
Pritam Singh SandhuPastor Pritam Singh Sandhu is a Punjabi Christian and live in Singapore. He is the founder of South Asian Connection http://www.southasianconnection.com and lead Pastor of South Asian International Fellowship http://www.saifchurch.com - a multicultural church reaching out to the South Asian community in Singapore and beyond.
South Asian International Fellowship also has a SAIF-Telugu and SAIF Tamil congregation - a focused targeted weekly evangelistic ministry to the migrant workers of Telugu and Tamil origin in Singapore mainly of blue collar shipyard and construction workers and some mission focussed Indian Singaporean PR families.
SOUTH ASIAN INTERNATIONAL FELLOWSHIP
SAIF English Service 5.00 – 6.30pm
SAIF Telugu Service 8.00 – 9.00pm
SAIF Tamil Service 8.00 – 9.00pm
Location - COVENANT HOUSE 110, Race Course Road, Singapore (218578) - 5 Minutes Walk from Little India MRT Station EXIT E
The Vision Of South Asian International Fellowship Is To Establish An International New Testament Type Ministry Through Which South Asians Will Be Empowered To Reach And Disciple The Nations For Christ.
Pastor Pritam Singh Sandhu is also the International Coordinator for the South Asian Global Convention http://www.SAGC2009.com - an International Gathering for South Asian Christian Youth and Young Adults for Mission Mobilization. He has served as the Youth Pastor/ Leader of Khush Khabri Fellowship in Singapore [1996-2000, 2005-2007] and Youth Pastor at the International Punjabi Masihi Church in Vancouver, Canada [2000-2005].
He was a former Sikh-Christian now, a dreamer, a visionary leader and a risk-taker in God's Kingdom. He is passionate about young people and mentoring the Next Generation of South Asian leaders. He is also interested in networking among churches and engaging the cultures.
Pastor Pritam Singh Sandhu was a Biology and Chemistry teacher at Bukit View Secondary School and Vice-Principal at BMC Training Institute, a private education school in Singapore. He holds a Bachelor of Science [Biology] degree from the National University of Singapore, a Post-Graduate Diploma in Education [Distinctions] from Nanyang Technological University, a Certificate in Christian Ministry from the Asian Christian Training School in Malaysia and a Masters of Christian Studies in Applied Theology from Regent College in Vancouver, Canada.
Pastor Pritam Singh Sandhu is also a Singapore registered licensed marriage solemnizer and conducts both civil and ceremonial marriages.
Pastor Pritam Singh Sandhu has two children - Sujaan Kaur Sandhu [born 21/06/04] and Saajan Singh Sandhu [born 04/01/09], and is married to Dr. Balbir Kaur Chaal, a UK-born Punjabi Christian and Cambridge University educated molecular biologist.
"My Christian Girlfriend Doesn't Want to Follow My Hindu Faith"
I am faced with a dilemma and was hoping if you could offer me some advice and solace. I am a Hindu and have received a proposal from a Christian girl who converted from Hinduism 3 years ago.
Whilst my parents expect her to follow my religion after marriage; I am of the view that she can follow her religion but she has to partake in all my Hindu religious activities; and that we have to have a Hindu marriage. I also respect Christianity and she can go to church etc. with myself accompanying her whenever possible.
She has come back to me saying that all the above will be a sin in Christianity and that she will be punished if she participates in my activities.
I have been advised by my Hindu priest to participate in her activities where possible. I respect her choice of religion coz for me there is only one god; it's just that we all have our own ways of faith.
I also realise that there are other factors like children to be considered here.
I like this girl and will find your advice invaluable.
It would also help if you could provide me the details of people who have been in a similar situation. And at the same time it would also help if you could look into the prospects of taking out a "best practices" manual for lets say Hindu/Christian; Christian/Muslim marriages etc which would provide some sort of a guideline.
This response by Michael Gleghorn, Founder of Probe Ministries www.probe.org is used with permission.
Thank you for your kind letter.
I encourage you to read the article "Do All Roads Lead to God? The Christian Attitude Toward Non-Christian Religions" which can be found at http://www.probe.org/content/view/792/0/. I think it will help you better understand your Christian girlfriend's perspective on participating in your Hindu religious activities.
In the Bible, the second book is called Exodus. In Exodus 20:1-6 the Lord gives His people the first two of the Ten Commandments. These are: 1. To have (or worship) no other gods except the Lord, and 2. Not to make, or worship, any idols or images of anything in all creation. As you can probably see, these first two commandments would make it very difficult for your Christian friend to be faithful to her own religious convictions AND participate in Hindu religious activities.
Christians believe that Jesus is the only way to God. In fact, this is what Jesus Himself claimed in John 14:6. Jesus demands our exclusive devotion and allegiance. We are not allowed to worship anyone else but the one true God of the Bible.
Although I cannot tell you what to do about marriage, I do know that (statistically speaking) interfaith marriages are much more difficult and face many more problems than do marriages in which both partners have shared religious beliefs. I would encourage both of you to seriously consider these difficulties BEFORE you get married. For example, in what religious tradition will your children be raised? What will they be taught about God, what happens after death, etc.?
Finally, if you're interested in learning what the Bible says about how a person can have a personal relationship with God, please visit the following web page: http://www.bible.org/page.asp?page_id=276 . This website also has the entire Bible available for you to read and study if you like.